How to Be Kind to Yourself After a Setback
Progress in overcoming social anxiety is never a straight line. You will have brave weeks and frightened weeks, forward steps and days when the old fear fl...
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Why You Cannot Just Relax Your Way Out of Social Anxiety
You have almost certainly been given advice. Be yourself. Just relax. Do not overthink it. Nobody is even looking at you. Confidence is a choice. Notice ho...
Rejection Sensitivity: When the Alarm Is Too Loud
Everyone dislikes rejection, but some people live with an alarm turned up far higher than others, going off constantly at the faintest hint of possible rej...
How to Stop Caring So Much What People Think of You
"Just stop caring what people think." It is common advice, and taken literally it is impossible. You are a social animal, wired over millions of years to c...
Why Shame Keeps You Stuck and Kindness Sets You Free
At the root of much social anxiety lies shame: not the passing embarrassment of a specific misstep, but a deeper, aching sense that there is something wron...
When Social Anxiety Is More Than Everyday Nerves
Almost everyone feels socially anxious sometimes: before a big presentation, on a first date, walking into a room of strangers. That everyday nervousness i...
The Difference Between Feeling Rejected and Being Rejected
The single most useful skill for anyone who fears rejection is learning to separate the feeling of rejection from the fact of it. These are not the same th...
What Social Anxiety Actually Is, and What It Is Not
Social anxiety is one of the most common forms of human suffering, and one of the most misunderstood. People call it shyness, being an introvert, or just n...
How to Talk to Your Doctor About Social Anxiety
For many people, the family doctor is the natural first stop for getting help with social anxiety, a gateway to therapy, other support, and guidance. But r...
Why You Cannot Think Your Way Out of a Panic Spiral
When anxiety surges toward panic, the natural instinct is to try to think your way out: to reason with the fear, to argue that nothing is really wrong, to...