How to Quiet Your Inner Critic
Every socially anxious person carries a passenger: a harsh inner voice that comments on their performance, predicts their failures, and narrates their shor...
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How to Handle Small Talk With Coworkers
The daily small talk of the workplace, the hellos by the coffee machine, the how-was-your-weekend in the hallway, the chatter before a meeting starts, can...
What Is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Why It Helps Social Anxiety
If you have read anything about treating anxiety, you have probably encountered the term cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It is the approach with the st...
The Courage to Keep Reaching After You Have Been Hurt
All of the work on rejection converges on a single capacity, the one that separates a shrinking life from an expanding one: the courage to keep reaching ou...
Habits That Support Recovery From Social Anxiety
Overcoming social anxiety is mainly about the psychological work of facing fears and changing your relationship with anxious thoughts. But that work happen...
How to Give a Presentation or Speak in Public
Public speaking tops many lists of common fears, and for someone with social anxiety it can feel like the ultimate ordeal: standing alone while a room full...
How to Reconnect With People You Have Drifted Away From
Most of us carry a quiet list of people we have lost touch with: old friends, former colleagues, people we genuinely liked and simply drifted from. Often w...
The Power of Warmth: Why Kindness Beats Being Impressive
Anxious people tend to obsess over competence in social situations: seeming smart, saying the clever thing, not making mistakes. They are trying to win peo...
Exposure: How Facing Fear Gradually Rewires It
Of all the things you can do to overcome social anxiety, one is the most powerful, and it is also the one you most want to avoid. To become less afraid of...
How to Share About Yourself Without Oversharing
Good conversation is not an interview. If you only ask questions and never reveal anything of yourself, the other person feels the imbalance, and it can st...